What Does Society’s Approach To Mental Health Problems Have In Common With Child Abuse?

September 24th, 2017

For a long time, mental and emotional problems were typically overlooked, and this has changed in recent years. A lot of money is now being spent to help people who are suffering in this way.

A Mixed Response

Still, this is not to say that everyone is happy with what is taking place; there are people who are still not getting the help that they need. Along with this, there are people who are getting help but it is not having the desired effect.

One way of looking at all this would be to say that this is just the beginning and as time passes, it will gradually improve. Let face it, it’s as not as if anything changes overnight – it takes time.

From One Extreme to Another

When someone starts something for the first time, they can end up becoming obsessed with it. There would then have been a time when what they were doing didn’t cross their mind and now this has changed.

In the same way, there was a time when society didn’t think about mental and emotional problems and now this has also changed. And while it might not be accurate to say that society is now obsessed with these kinds of problems, there is evidence to suggest that it has gone too far.

The New Normal

For example, if someone experienced anxiety or depression from time to time and they were to reach out for help, they could be told that this is just part of life. At the same time, they could end up being told that they have ‘mental health’ problems.

When this takes place, it could be said that what it means to be human is being redefined. Ultimately, there is not going to be anything wrong with them, but they will be treated as though this is not the case.

A Fine Line

What this shows is that there is a fine line between helping someone and causing them harm. The therapist/mental health professional might have good intentions, but that doesn’t mean that they are having a positive effect.

As Samuel Johnson ounce said, “Hell is paved with good intentions.” Therefore, just because someone believes that they are having a positive effect, it is doesn’t mean that they are.

Creating problems

So, while there are going to be people out there who have legitimate problems, there are going to be others who don’t. But due to being misdiagnosed, for instance, they can come to believe that there is something wrong with them.

When in reality, they are simply experiencing things that just about every other person on the planet experiences. And, if they were to go back a few thousand years, it is unlikely to be any different.

Life Has Changed

Now, if someone believes that human beings only experience anxiety and depression if they have mental health problems, they could say that they no longer need to experience life in this way. This could show that they believe that human beings should feel good all the time.

Not only would this lead to a very shallow existence, it would also cause human beings to be out of balance. Being able to experience both sides of the emotional spectrum is what gives life meaning.

Two Sides

Clearly, if one experience a lot of anxiety it is going to be a challenge for them to function; but if they could no longer experience anxiety, their life is not necessarily going to be any better. Through being able to experience anxiety, it will allow them to prepare for future events and to avoid going to places that might put their life at risk, for instance.

Depression is no different in this regard, as when someone suffers from depression their life can be unbearable. And at the same time, when someone has the ability to lower their mood, it can give them the ability to solve complex problems.

Don’t Throw the Baby Out With the Bath Water

To say that these emotional experiences are bad can be seen as what happens when someone engages in black and white thinking. This takes less energy, but it can cause someone to miss out on a lot of valuable information.

Another part of society’s approach to mental health problems is that the individual will often be seen as the one with the problem. It is then going to be as though this person is separate from their environment.

Business as Usual

And, through focusing on the individual, there is then no reason for society as a whole to change. Whereas in reality, this person is simply a product of their environment and if they have problems, it shows that something isn’t right.

What adds weight to this is that it’s not just a handful of people who have mental problems; this is something that affects thousands and thousands of people. Through having this approach, there is no reason for the people at the top to actually deal with the real problems.

Child Abuse

This is then similar to what happens when a child is playing up at home or at school, for instance. The child’s parents can believe that the child is the one with the problem, and end up taking them to see a psychologist.

Perhaps the child does have a problem, but then again, this child could just be a reflection of what is taking place in their family system. When the child is at home, they could be getting abused and/or neglected, and this means that their behaviour could simply be a cry for help.


What this emphasises is how important it is to look at the big picture, as this will make it easier to understand what is going on. From there, something can actually be done about what is taking place.

Handling Penis Size Concerns at the Gym

September 24th, 2017

People go to the gym because they want to improve their physical appearance (among other reasons). With this emphasis on appearance, some men may find themselves with concerns about an issue over which they have little control – namely, their penis size. Although men know that penis health is more important than penis size, the size issue still matters to a lot of men. And they may find themselves concentrating on it while in the gym locker room, when they may have no choice but to put their equipment on display, at least temporarily. So knowing how to handle this situation is important.

Not just small

Ironically, it’s not always concern about showing a potentially small penis in a public space that men feel. Some men with an exceptionally large endowment also feel conflicted about revealing themselves in the locker room or shower at the gym.

It’s not uncommon for men to steal a glance at other men while changing or showering; comparing penis size doesn’t stop after high school. And it can be done very subtly, with just a glance, or overtly, with one guy commenting – whether mockingly or admiringly – on another’s endowment. And while it may be more flattering to get comments about how much action a man’s big penis must get rather than comments about how a woman even knows when a small penis is inserted, it can still make a man feel uncomfortable.

What to do

Of course, some men don’t mind the comments and attention at all, whatever their penis size. For some men, public nudity and the attendant comments or wisecracks is part of healthy male bonding; it makes them feel connected and more at home with other men.

But for those who find revealing their penis size at the gym to be stressful, the following suggestions may be helpful.

- Contact a professional. Being a little insecure about penis size is normal, but if it causes severe distress, it may be a good idea to contact a mental health professional to discuss why it produces such feelings. They may also be able to help develop strategies to feel more comfortable about penis size and to be less concerned about how other men view it.

- Bring a towel from home. Gym towels are often on the small size and may not comfortably wrap around a guy’s waist. Bringing a larger towel from home that wraps all the way around can help conceal the penis from other men’s gazes. Some men prefer to wrap the towel around before removing their underwear before showering. After showering, they may also keep the towel wrapped as they put on a clean pair of underwear.

- Accept that erections happen. Many men worry about getting a boner in a communal shower or while changing clothes. This is something that, at some point in their lives, has happened to most men. (In fact, lots of guys get a kick out of showing off their erections this way.) If a penis pops up at an unwanted time, the best thing to do is to accept that this happens and continue on without panicking. But if it happens frequently, a man may want to consider thinking “erection-deflating” thoughts before stripping down. Some men who pop erections frequently find it helps to masturbate before going to the gym, just to make an erection less likely to occur.

- Give back. Sometimes it pays to respond to comments about penis size, either playfully – “Hey, at least you don’t need a microscope to see mine!” – or directly – “Keep your eyes on your own penis, buddy.”

At the gym, feeling comfortable about penis size is important, but so is the healthy appearance of the member. Regular use of a first rate penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) with powerful moisturizers is crucial for good penis skin. The crème should include both a natural hydrator (vitamin E) and a high-end emollient (Shea butter). It also helps if alpha lipoic acid, a powerful antioxidant, is part of the crème; this fights free radicals that cause oxidative stress damage to penis skin.